DD can't tell you how sad I was when I read this. I almost passed over this thread till another time, but glad I didn't. Although we've never met it seams like I've know you for a long time. This forum is not just for parts, racing tips and scammers. It's also our family connection and how we all know each other.
I don't get into friends buisness, but I do tell all of my friends in this situation to please make sure it's the last resort. Many times it is better to take a break and sit back a really think these things through.
I hope the best for you and her.