All this would have been avoided if there had been some kind of plan in place in case one or the other didn't like the trade...seems to me that you both are out the same money as far as shipping goes , mayby it's just me , but I sure as hell would not ship my car off to someone I didn't know and swap it for a car I had never seen,,,just doesn't sound like a very good idea to me...but thats just me......