News from the Pits.....
 

...My crew chief and I are going our separate ways. I'm just not cut out for the family life and she's not cut out for the gearhead life, and we just can't seem to mix 'em successfully. Lots of pain on both sides but is amicable. Will be moving back into the shop, soon.
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Sorry to hear that DD, i've been there twice, but neither one of them were intrested in racing, in fact neither one hardly ever went to the track with me. My last divorce was 1982 and i decided i wouldn't try marriage again, so single since then. Had opertunities but passed on them. Both my ex's parted on good terms and was never any bad feelings.
Good luck and keep your head up, it's not the end of the world.

Zip.

damn dd im so , so sorry.i wish there was something i could say that would help you but there really isnt. time seems to be the only thing that really helps.but we are here for you my friend.try to leave as friendly as possible.its hard to live with bad feelings.they seem to get under our skin and eat us up from the inside out.

Damn DD. Sorry to hear this. Liek everybody else has said try and end on good terms. Im going thru the same thing and we are staying on good terms and even are still being business partners.

DD: that is a shocker. Seriously... didn't see that one coming at all. I am sorry buddy. I don't know what to say....

Thanks for the 'support' guys. As with everything there is more behind the scene than will be made 'public'. We ARE splitting on 'good' terms.
It all boils down to me not being wired for any kind of 'family' type situation. There was a reason I was single for 30+ years.
A VERY GOOD woman is hurt and disappointed now, that need not be if I'd not fallen under the 'Maybe, just maybe this time'..spell, and deep inside know it would NOT work....something I will carry for the rest of my life, hurting her...

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DD can't tell you how sad I was when I read this. I almost passed over this thread till another time, but glad I didn't. Although we've never met it seams like I've know you for a long time. This forum is not just for parts, racing tips and scammers. It's also our family connection and how we all know each other.

I don't get into friends buisness, but I do tell all of my friends in this situation to please make sure it's the last resort. Many times it is better to take a break and sit back a really think these things through.

I hope the best for you and her.

DD this subject came up a few weeks ago and you said 30 yrs. single and i said right behind you with 29 yrs. single and i didn't think i could ever get married because i have too many redneck problems, such as farting in bed, etc. It was a joke then, but i'm seriouly sorry that it come's to a reality for you. By the way i luv the world fastest Indian movie and his motivation to get it done, for yrs. beyond where i am now, 2 lane blacktop i lived that era and have strong memories from in and around Chgo. running from the law.

Zip.

PS: i don't don't know how many people on the forum has only been married once, but i know not many, maybe Outlaw, but not many more.

well zip. ive been married to the same little girl for 33 yrs. be 34 in april. i met her when i was 22 and she was 17. my dad had to take my wife to school while i went to work!true. lol anyway we got divorced in the early 90s. i ran wild drinkin and fightin.she isnt like that. anyway we got divorced and that lasted about a month and a half. then she wanted to get married again and i jumped on it.we went to the court house on our lunch hr.got married then we went back to our jobs.i hadnt changed i dont know why she wanted me back but she did. its been really hard for her to live with someone like me. im a real ass most of the time.im not like you or dd.i need her to help me run true and thats seroius.i stay out of trouble because i dont want to hurt her.not because im a good guy.i have to have her. she is my drug.even thou we fight like cats and dogs, i love and need her.

dd i know we have never met but for some reason this is really bothering me. man i hate to know i have a freind out there and hes hurtin.are you sure you cant work shit out?dont matter whos right or wrong as long as there is some kinda hope for a future together.i have a friend who i used to ride with, he lives for his bike and the road. hes so far into the biker life he wont ever be able to live like me and most of the rest of the world. he wanted to also but the road kept callin him home.now hes oldcant ride and lives in a shack on the mississippi river with his bike in there with him.lol right next to a cot he sleeps on .and hes happy. i mean hes really happy.and it bothers me that hes out there alone.i dont know what im trying to say its just im worried i quess.i know your a smart man so brother make sure its got to be this way.

Well boys, I've fought with myself over this for my whole life. I really am genuinely the happiest and at peace with the world when I'm behind the wheel of a race car or in the shop building one. Sounds VERY self centered and it really is. It is what it is and I cannot change it. "I yam wot I yam".
It doesn't make me a bad person, cuz I'm not. What is killin' me is the deep pain that I've brought upon my wife, when I knew all along from day one, It ain't gonna work.

DD I think a lot of us are at best in the shop. That doesn't mean we're bad people. Really nowhere I'd rather be than in my shop with my truck and my dog. Every so often I get out, but every time I do it makes me like being alone in the shop even more! I'm only 43, (been married once, lived with a few other girls), and I've been like this most of my life and the older I get the more I stay to myself. As a kid I didn't go out and party I was too busy working and trying to make a living and I guess I just got use to being alone. My life is simple, I have a little in the bank and I know I would have to change things to be married and I honestly don't think I'm ready for it yet.

Hey Outlaw, i'm a Green Mountain boy born on Green Mountain before there was a road up there, right where you live, Titled/birth certificate in Owens-X-Roads Ala. in 1939, most of my relatives lived and di'ed there, although i was moved away as a child, i still go there to visit graves every few yrs.

Zip.

well zip next time your going to be in the area let me know. i sure would like to offer you a meal and a little talk.whats funny about you being born around here is that when you lived in streamwwod il, i probably walked right past your house. i lived in hanover park as a teen.and now ill end my days where you started yours.

Sorry to hear that DD, sometimes its just not meant to be. Thats better than most people who just stay together "because". It just a miserable life if you do...

Sorry to hear this. :(

Parting ways
 

My first wife divorced me for the same reasons. My second wife loves old cars and especially trucks. I had to get her a 49 Chevy Pick-up to keep her happy and quiet. It was worth the money. She loves car shows/cruises and the race track. I keep reminding her that a womans place is in the kitchen, but she won't have any of that. She just wants to get in her truck and drive. I waited 14 years between marriages to find her, and it was well worth the wait.
Keep your chin up and the "right" partner will come along. Your story may have a happy ending yet. Good luck my friend.

DD this really hurts as I (we) felt we were part of your family. I pray something positive will come out of this.