My little sister...

[Harbone]

was born 13 years younger than me. My only sibling was born to my mother and step-father. She was a beautiful blond baby girl and I was a big part of her life until I turned 17 and moved out. My parents were not rich and the white trash way would be the best words to describe our life. My sister was diagnosed with diabetes at the age of 6. It would be a big part of her life and also tear her body apart as she got older. She was a straight A student and was bound to go to college. When she turned 18 her lifestyle changed, she started running with the wrong crowd, got heavy into drugs and not keeping up on her insulin caused her to have huge gains and losses in weight which had bad affects on her 5 foot tall body. By the time she as 22 she has been arrested multiple times for shoplifting and drug possession. She served her first prison term at the age of 24. Her health was horrible, she needed a kidney by the time she was 25. I had went through all the testing to be a possible donor but her doctor said it would just be a waste of time. She had shunts placed in her body so they could do dialysis 2 times a week at the age of 26. She was in and out of prison 3 more times before she was 31. She had stolen from my parents and grandparent numerous times over the years and was forbidden to come near their homes. She was released on parole last December and was living in a half way house a hour away. I saw her last January for the first time in 3 years. She looked like a little old lady, hair falling out, missing teeth and her skin yellowed from missing her dialysis treaments. It made me cry when I left. She was found in her room Thursday night after missing her treatments earlier that day. She died alone and in despair just 2 months shy of the age of 33. RIP my little sister Shelly you are in a much better place now :cry:

[DirkaDirka]

Sorry to hear this man. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[fla1976]

Sad news. Sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers go out for you and yours.

[RonOwensRacing]

Chris i am very sorry for your loss our prayers for you and yours.

[MEMRACING62]

Sorry for your loss Chris, such a sad life. :( . RIP.

[fast75vega]

sorry to hear bro....... sounds like she is in a better place now.

[TheRabbit]

Sorry for your loss. Very sad story and I'm sure it was pretty hard to write about it.

[itsabird]

Sorry to hear that man, very sad story.

[BEAST477]

Very sorry for your loss Chris. :( Your right she is in a better place now.

[BEAST477]

Very sorry for your loss Chris. :( Your right she is in a better place now.

[lively]

sorry CHRIS---drugs and tough living can lead to a very ,rough end---my oldest son found that out a few years ago

HER BATTLE IS OVER NOW AND BE GLAD FOR THAT.

just keep your head up and trust GOD for the comfort you will need .

your friend ,DENNIS

[Harbone]

Rabbit I think writing about it kind of cleansed my soul a bit today and yes Beast, she is in a better place and finally at peace with herself and God...

[bjuice]

Sorry Brother if you need to text or talk you have my cell Number.

[zipper06]

Chris,
Sorry for your loss i'm sure it wasn't easy.
I too know about destructive behavior in the family. My son graduated from Sothern Il. University, majored in theater arts. Got an agent, played second city i Chgo. hung out with Chris Farley and friends, played in 4 or 5 movies small parts. Got into drugs and alcohol, couldn't control his appitate for alcohol, finally couldn't get any parts, his last movie was a bit part in MO Money, wound up being a waiter, darnk his self silly every nite after work. 6 yrs ago he had no job no money. My Ex. and his mother decided we would help him get to Las Vegas where she lived (we split the airfare) with the thougts she would be able to straighten him out. It worked for a couple months then he moved in with a friend, who was also an alcholic. 3 yrs ago i got a call he was in the hospital his liver shut down. So i rushed to Vegas, not knowing if i was going to a funeral or not. Luckly he came out of it but only has 20% liver fucation. The dr's told him he does'nt need a gun to commit suicide all he needs in 1 bottle of wine. He's been clean and sober since then. He was able to go back to work after 6 mos and works in the deli in one of the large super market chains in vegas. He had talent and could have made in movies (i think) but we all know you can't fix someone who doesn't want to be fixed no matter how smart the person is.

Zip.+

[bcw49]

Sad news for sure. Sorry about your loss.

[outlaw256]

brother im so sorry to hear this.this had to be hard to write and i feel for you and yours. now she has left all the pain behind her.the life she lived is a hard one. its hard on the soul and its hard on the body. i know ive lived it myself.but with a different outcome.she now is in gods hands and from what i hear thats a good place to be.no more pain and all that love.

[TheYellaBrick]

brother im so sorry to hear this.this had to be hard to write and i feel for you and yours. now she has left all the pain behind her.the life she lived is a hard one. its hard on the soul and its hard on the body. i know ive lived it myself.but with a different outcome.she now is in gods hands and from what i hear thats a good place to be.no more pain and all that love.

X2....She feels no pain anymore.

[bowtie4542001]

Chris,
Sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family. She is in a much better place now.

[Scooterz]

Harb, I just saw this today. I am sorry I did not notice it earlier. I knew the second I starting reading the post how it was going to end. I was like your lil sister for period in my life. I have sat in many group therapy sessions struggling alongside other addicts who either get clean, go to more institutions, or die. One thing we addicts grasp/understand: it is a battle of the flesh with addiction... hardest physical battle I have ever known. In the end, she is now at home spiritually. Some reach the point of no return & long term sobriety is not obtainable... our bodies change permanently from addiction too. She will not have another withdraw, or feel the bondage of that battle. I am sorry... she is indeed in a better place safe now. She IS that little girl you remember long ago before the wreckage. Live your days for her that she missed... say thanks to God for taking good care of her in her new life. I am truly sorry.

[TS1955]

I am sorry to hear about your loss. Prayers sent to you and your family.

TS1955

[bjuice]

Harb, I just saw this today. I am sorry I did not notice it earlier. I knew the second I starting reading the post how it was going to end. I was like your lil sister for period in my life. I have sat in many group therapy sessions struggling alongside other addicts who either get clean, go to more institutions, or die. One thing we addicts grasp/understand: it is a battle of the flesh with addiction... hardest physical battle I have ever known. In the end, she is now at home spiritually. Some reach the point of no return & long term sobriety is not obtainable... our bodies change permanently from addiction too. She will not have another withdraw, or feel the bondage of that battle. I am sorry... she is indeed in a better place safe now. She IS that little girl you remember long ago before the wreckage. Live your days for her that she missed... say thanks to God for taking good care of her in her new life. I am truly sorry.

Well said Scoot !

[mopar1968]

Sorry to hear this Chris, Our thought's and prayers to you and family :!: :!:


Mark

[Harbone]

She wasnt a burden, she was a my sister...

[itsabird]

Good man, harb.

[outlaw256]

ghustler, thats about as cold and callous as you can get. we have never had any problems between us but im glad we arent livin close to each other right now. im REALLY ANGRY that you would say something like that to a man that just lost someone he loved with all his heart.i know you dont care how i feel, dont blame you for that we arent friends.but to purposely hurt someone who is grieving is low. really shows your character.harbone is good people. there is no reason to throw shi- out there like that.we all have our crosses to bear. i hope yours isnt to heavy for you when its your turn to carry one.i truly do.i only wish you well but i think you owe harbone a im sorry.oh and remember this. your grandfather wouldnt have turn loose of the first dime if he truly didnt want to. but he had enough character and responcibility and love to take care of his own.are you mad because you didnt get any of the money grandpa worked for.

[mopar1968]

I agree outlaw, This should be the last straw for the Mod's to get rid of this idiot :!: :!:


Mark

[Harbone]

Ken I cant thank you and Mark enough for having my back. I read this yesterday right before I was leaving for my sisters funeral. I wanted to type a vicious reply but I have learned thats the kind of response that he is lookng for every time he comes on here and spews garbage from his mouth. I am not going to let him poison this post.

[outlaw256]

thats what friends do harbone. that jerk better be glad he is a keyboard cowboy because in my world he wouldnt walk away after that.

[mopar1968]

Amen outlaw i couldn't have said it better :!: :!: :!:


Mark

[spib]

very sorry to hear this RIP Shelly

[Scooterz]

Ghustler:

THIS IS NOT THE PLACE OR TIME!!!! You were never invited to talk about this, talk to Chris, or about his sister. Be a man & walk away from here. You are absolutely shameful & disrespectful in the worst possible way. "Tact" is TOTALLY absent from your nature. Seriously STOP NOW. Go to another thread & insult someone else. You disgust me & you are lucky you can HIDE UNDER YOUR ROCK.

MODS: I am not sure if this thread can be locked or if a user can be restricted for such situations, but this situation is not helping anyone. I have never been against freedom of speech, but this is about as distasteful as a human being can get.

[spib]

Rigsby well said well said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Harbone]

Thanks guys but please let it go, all you are doing is feeding his ego. I asked Brian to solve the problem. This is not how I want this thread to end...

[Scooterz]

Thanks guys but please let it go, all you are doing is feeding his ego. I asked Brian to solve the problem. This is not how I want this thread to end...

No problem Harb. You are right. You are a gentleman. Although I am moved otherwise, I respect you too much to say another word in this situation. I will keep quiet & God bless your family right now.

[MEMRACING62]

Thanks guys but please let it go, all you are doing is feeding his ego. I asked Brian to solve the problem. This is not how I want this thread to end... WOW... just read this spew....so sorry we have someone like this with us here... a little house cleaning is in order.again chris sorry for you and your families loss.

[bjuice]

Sorry Chris if I had my PC up I would have caught this sooner. I am having to work the site from my cell phone. I am not going to lock the thread unless bone ask me to and I will. Hustler bad timing do yourself a big favor and stay off this thread please.

[Harbone]

Thanks Brian...

[Harbone]

I dont want this post closed either. I would hope that someone reads this and just maybe save someone in their life from the same demise as my sister. Let your kids reads this, if you know someone that has a drug problem do whatever you can to help them. I poured thousands of dollars into my little sister over the years and would give every last dollar I own to have her still alive today. Its not about the money, its about family. I am going to post up two pictures. I really want to do this so someone can see just what drugs can do to a beautiful person. The first pic is my sisters senior picture, she could have had it all. The second pic is her last mugshot. Keep in mind this is only 12 years after the first picture.

http://s3.racingjunk.com/ui/8/41/26099418-449.jpg

http://s3.racingjunk.com/ui/1/42/26099421-659.jpg

Scooter you are right, shes in God's hands now...

[MileHighMan]

I dont want this post closed either. I would hope that someone reads this and just maybe save someone in their life from the same demise as my sister. Let your kids reads this, if you know someone that has a drug problem do whatever you can to help them. I poured thousands of dollars into my little sister over the years and would give every last dollar I own to have her still alive today. Its not about the money, its about family. I am going to post up two pictures. I really want to do this so someone can see just what drugs can do to a beautiful person. The first pic is my sisters senior picture, she could have had it all. The second pic is her last mugshot. Keep in mind this is only 12 years after the first picture.

http://s3.racingjunk.com/ui/8/41/26099418-449.jpg

http://s3.racingjunk.com/ui/1/42/26099421-659.jpg

Scooter you are right, shes in God's hands now...


It's so sad our loved ones put their-selves through that...My oldest son comitted suicide by hanging 14 years ago....Even though he was only 13 years old...He got excellent grades at school and was liked by most of his classmates....It seems after investigation he was bullied by a few,, and I guess he could'nt take it anymore......My yougest has decided that heroin is his future and drug of choice...We all know where that's gonna go...I feel that Harbone66 is correct..It's about family...I too have spent a small fortune for his recovory but I'm approching retirement,, and can't let this drug addiction take me down too...Sorry for my hardend heart...It boils down to tough love....It kills me to point at the door and tell him to leave my house.....It's his addiction not mine.......Dan.

[outlaw256]

dan, ive used the sneaky white powder also. i would use it now if i could get it here. for my increasing pain. not the high.i was 17 when i tried to quit. i was selling it and staRTED USING it and became addicted.i put my parents thru hell. there wasnt rehabs like there are today.a neigbor lady tied me to a bed in her basement and i stayed ther tied to that bed for 5 days. puking. crapping and screaming in pain . i had finally quit and only used it after almost 40 yrs because of pain.but its not around here enough to get on a regular basest.so i use what the dr. gives me. good but not enough.anyway understand what you are going thru. i have a son who we have been have some trouble with. he has started to mess around some with narcotics.and with me using them daily its a hard fight.but there is a difference. im in pain and he is not.at least not physical pain.he lives in a 2 story cottage we built off our back deck. pays no rent and cant find another job.or so he says.hell hes 28 and i cant keep paying his way. so in the next few days he may be sleeping outside in the woods because im going to show him the door. it hurts me like ive never hurt before.with all the crap that has beening going on in my life now i have to deal with him and his problems. ive loaded one of my pistols the other day and put it in my mouth. pulled the hammer back but i could not pull the trigger.i decided then that its time to tell him he has to either get it together or take it somewhere else. i cant deal with it anymore. i have enough on my plate without him adding to it.i feel your pain.i understand right where you are. if you want to talk some let me know . hell it would help me too. lol

[Harbone]

Ken stay focused please. suicide is not the way out, the affect it has on your family and loved ones never goes away. I should know, my father took his own life when I was just 4 years old and it still haunts me to this day. Giving your son the boot may be the solution to the problem. I had a time in my life that my car was my home cause I had nothing else. about 3 months of sleeping in the backseat was enough to get me motivated to do something with my life and I did.

[outlaw256]

bone i dont know why i put that up there under your post. like you dont have enough to deal with. buddy im so sorry that i did that but before i really thought about it i did it. then later i got to thinking and it was to late.i again im so sorry please dont let this crap get you down. im not going to do it now, but i wont lie to you i did come close a few times since my wreck.but i couldnt do that to my little bride.she has lost so many in her life. i have lost a cousin and a few close friends to suicide,ive seen the aftermath and it is not good.i have never run from anything in my life im not gonna start now.i was trying to say that that is how desparete ive be come because of having to deal with the pain, my losing my ability to think clearly and all the other goodies that come with brain damage.then worry about how to deal with my son. he has seen the aftermath of dope, thats why its such a shock to me that he went that way.im going to set him down tonite and tell him freeride is over. we will see how that goes over. lol hes not using right now but i know its always close by. ive lived that life. there isnt anything he can tell me or hide from me, if i just open my damn eyes.dont worry about me brother,take care of you and yours. im a fighter, hell i love to fight, so i quess this is just one more thing to fight.lol i truly didnt mean to make it sound like thats whats in my mind now, it was something in the past. take care my friend. im always thinking of all of you guys here on rj when things are bad for yall.man scoooter even got me to praying. and i never even talked to him. i have never heard his voice.lol but he sure can write!! take care

[Harbone]

No reason to apologize to me Ken, ever...

[MileHighMan]

Ken stay focused please. suicide is not the way out, the affect it has on your family and loved ones never goes away. I should know, my father took his own life when I was just 4 years old and it still haunts me to this day. Giving your son the boot may be the solution to the problem. I had a time in my life that my car was my home cause I had nothing else. about 3 months of sleeping in the backseat was enough to get me motivated to do something with my life and I did.

I agree....Suicide only relieves the pain of one,,but kills all those around you..it's a permanent solution to a temporary problem...tomorrow is another day,,and remember..God loves you!!!...Dan.

[mopar1968]

Ken the way i see things we are a family here, I think we are close enough to be there when one of us need's help of any kind. If any of you and includes me need's to talk just ring my phone, Some of you has my number :!: :!:


Mark

[TheRabbit]

Harb, my original post was about my older sister. I deleted it before I posted it because I didn't want to take away from your sister. It looks like this has really turned out as a good thread to let everybody talk about real family problems. I don't have time tonight to say much about my sister so I'll save it for later.
I can't describe how sad I feel for you. By that high school pic. this is not how it was meant to be for her.


Outlaw, please unwind a little. I don't have any idea what to say or what to tell you to do, but taking you own life is not the answer. There will be better days ahead.

[Harbone]

Rabbit feel free to tell me about your sister, you wont take anything away from this post.

[Scooterz]

Harb:

The pics are shocking yet like so many I have seen over the years. Addiction is one of the most efficient tools of the enemy I have ever seen... a one-way path to destruction & death. My kids are pretty young (8 & 10), but I am going to tell them Shelly's story & show them the pics tonight... in honor of her... she would tell them what not to do if she were here... lets not let her death be in vain. She was stolen from us here, but given back when she passed.

Ken: people need ya buddy... we need you to stay too. Get rid of the gun if you have to... you can't avoid rash choices when withdrawal comes back. Ask God to help keep your mind clear. You may not be able to fix your broken body much; but you can help your mind get healthy. Man if you could help your son get clean, that is reason enough to stick around. If I were closer, I would come hang out with you a lot.